Years ago I went to a church dance and against my better judgment, I decided to get a ride home from these boys from my ward. They had always seemed nice enough, but I was horrified that they were listening to the most vile rap music I have ever heard. It was degrading of women and I can’t help but think that it partially led to them becoming exmormon later. I think out of all of them, only one is not exmormon now. For the first time, I felt unsafe with these boys I had grown up with and known pretty much my whole life.